I’m so excited to share another of the four books that kick-started my journey to joy and led me to making the big, fat, hairy goal to experience JOY every day! This book was gifted to my by the author Ailsa Frank and it’s the fabulously titled Cut the Crap and Feel AMAZING.
Don’t you just LOVE that title? Makes you want to dive right in and learn all the lessons it has to teach!
But I actually quite found it quite hard to read because it brought home a lot of truths that I needed, but I wasn’t sure I was ready for.
Cutting the crap and feeling AMAZING is all about rising above the negative and the dramas in your life. It’s about being more positive by breaking down bad thought patterns that have become habits. As Ailsa points out…
Does this resonate with you? It REALLY did with me. Because I realised that I DO have a tendency to make dramas out of the smallest everyday irritations.
Late for school? Drama. Kids won’t sleep? Drama.
Cut the drama!
My drama causes stress – but not just for me. It causes stress for those around me, for my husband and yes for my children too. In the Parenting chapter I learned that I’m modelling behaviour for them with my actions, words and emotions.
If I shout, they will too. If I’m stressed, they will be as well.
No wonder so many of the school mornings that started out with me rushing and stressing about being late ended up in tears! As parents it’s up to us to be the grown-up and model positive, calm behaviour. There are so many great lessons here from modelling and connecting to using your words carefully, building a relationship that will last a lifetime and making life fun. I’ve read and re-read the Parenting chapter because it resonates so much with me.
Throughout her book Ailsa talks about rising above the drama and negativity through some simple techniques – there’s more than one technique listed in the book so you can choose what works for you. To give you an example, I particularly like the idea of separating myself from my past by thinking of events in my life as stepping stones or a bridge;
I LOVE this because it lets me see my past behaviour, my negativity before I started my journey, as part of learning how I DON’T want to live my life. See how that turns it into a positive?
Get into the AMAZING zone
Ailsa is a big proponent of visualisation and one of the key themes of the book is getting into the AMAZING zone using this technique, just as racing drivers and athletes do. I’ve actually been doing this for a long time in relation to my career and I call it ‘BE, DO, HAVE’ (essentially ‘be’ the person you want to be, ‘do’ the things they would do and you will achieve or ‘have’ that experience) but I’d never applied it to my family life before – cue lightbulb moment!
So in the mornings now I use Ailsa’s technique as part of my morning routine to visual the best day possible. I tell myself it’s going to be AMAZING – with no dramas – and I really find that it helps me be more positive. I’ve also added the word to my everyday language because it’s so emotive and energising. I know it sounds simple (scoff if you want), but hey simple often works.
Through making this and other techniques described in the book our new habits Ailsa believes we can all make changes to cut the crap from each area of our lives – work, wealth, relationships, parenting, addictions, heartache, bereavement, stress and mundane, everyday irritations.
Ailsa Frank is a qualified Registered Hypnotherapist, Member of the General Hypnotherapy Register, The Hypnotherapy Society and the National Guild of Hypnotists. She combines her techniques, extensive experience with clients and real-life stories to teach you how to help yourself. This book is about letting go of the negative and learning to manage your life better, living the a life that makes you smile and sorting through the things you need to change to make that happen. A big, fat, hairy YES to that from me!