What’s really stopping you from focusing on YOU and your self-care?

I am passionate about the importance of taking time out for ourselves, for self-care, for me-time. Taking time out to focus on makes us happy isn’t selfish, it’s a necessity. But like getting enough sleep and drinking enough water it’s often the last thing on our to-do lists.

It’s easy to blame our busy-ness – we’re busy, oh-so-busy, crazy-busy, rushing-around-busy, cold-coffee-again-busy… but is that the REAL reason? Nope, I’m not sure it is.⠀

It’s about mindset. It’s about putting ourselves last on the list. It’s about filling up everyone else’s cup and leaving ours empty. It’s about paddling away madly under the surface but just keeping afloat. It’s about needing to change how we THINK before we can change how we ACT.

Clearly we want to be the best we can be in the roles we play in our lives, so how can we focus on ourselves and not feel guilty or distracted by the myriad of demands on our time?

Ditch Perfectionism

I know I often let perfectionism be my shield. I promise myself that I’ll get around to me just as soon as I’ve finished this quarter’s planning, drafted that article or uploaded one more social media post. But really I’m just feeling guilty that I should be doing those things instead so I push them to the top of my list. All that busy-ness scratches my perfectionism itch, but to be my best self I need to give myself the gift of my own space and time to be creative, or relax or exercise or get out into nature… or whatever will fill my soul today.

Remember your why

If you’ve got a task-focused personality like me then often it’s super easy to get bogged down in everything on everything we need to get done in our busy day. So we push our own self-care, our me-time, down to the bottom of the list.

But if we can remember our WHY, the reason that time for US is important, whatever we choose to do with it… reading, painting, writing, working ON our business (instead of IN it), resting, dancing, meditating… then that can help us reprioritise ourselves.

This is important because of the impact on our MINDSET, our ATTITUDE, our happiness quota. It’s important because it allows us to come back out of that personal space to be the best version of ourselves with everyone else in our lives.

Time management

As women in business our lives are FULL to the brim with tasks, that’s for sure, but managing our time carefully can also help to create the space in our day to spend on ourselves. Limiting distractions, from social media notifications to email and phone messages, and techniques like timeboxing, (chunking up your available time and assigning tasks to that time for a set period), creates focus which means we’re more productive for example.

Whatever technique you choose to find the space in the day for you, know this… you are 100% are worthwhile enough to be the #1 task on your to do list.


If you’re ready to finally start living your ideal life (and bring that sparkle back into your eyes), book a free 45 min clarity call with me. I’ll help you get crystal clear on what you want for your life and business, what’s really holding you back and the steps you can start taking today to overcome those obstacles. You’ll also get a taste of what coaching with me is like, we’ll get to know each other and see if we’re a good fit to continue working together now or perhaps in the future. Either way, I’ll send you a follow-up email with tools, tips and resources you can use based on our time together.

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