Do you struggle to say ‘no’?
Finding time in the day for ourselves isn’t easy, is it! Let’s face it, as busy mamas, daughters, wives, colleagues, employees or business owners often so much of our daily routine is focused on everyone BUT us.
But taking time out for us is SO important if we’re going to show up in the rest of our lives as our most positive, powerful and productive selves.
One way that we can engineer more me-time into our day is by learning to say ‘no’ to some things, to give us the space to say ‘yes’ to others.
I know, I know, it’s such a hard thing to do when we want to help and support those around us. But just like a car needs fuel and a regular service to keep running smoothly, we need to renew our own energies with self-care and me-time.
Here’s two simple steps to start learning how to say ‘no’ today…
The late Steve Jobs once said: “Focus is about saying no” and I wholeheartedly agree!
Here are three ways I’ve learned to say no – I use them depending on who the person is and what they’re asking for – take them, adapt them and use! Pin them near your desk or your phone so you’ve got them handy when someone asks for your help…
“No, I’m sorry, I can’t take that on right now and here’s why – (explain why) – but I can help you next week/month?”
“I’m sorry I won’t be able to get to that until (day/week/month) because (reason) – but perhaps I can help you another way by (suggest another way you can help i.e. someone else who might be able to help them)
“I’d love to help but I’m really busy with (reason) right now and I know I won’t be able to do it justice.” (Leave some silence and hold your nerve! You can follow this one up with one of the other responses too if you need to.)
Do you know another busy mama who’s struggling to say ‘no’? Why not share this post with her and make a promise to remind each other to schedule some me-time into your week?